In July of last year, 32-year-old Timothy Bentley, a mechanical engineer from Cape Town, found his life suddenly upended. Following what seemed to be a common viral infection, Tim’s health began to unravel in ways he could never have imagined. His diagnosis of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME/CFS), also known as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, has led to a downward spiral in his health, leaving him bed-bound and dependent on loved ones for even the simplest tasks.
Pictured above: 32-year-old Timothy Bentley
Tim’s journey to a diagnosis was a lengthy one; it took over eight months from his initial infection to get any real answers. During that time, he endured the deterioration of his physical and mental capacities. Once an avid mountain biker, racer, and BMX dirt jumper who loved going to live concerts and the beach, Tim has now lost access to the activities and lifestyle that once defined him. “It’s been extremely tough on me,” Tim shares. “I was incredibly active before I got sick. Now, it’s so isolating, and every test builds my hopes, only for them to be dashed when the results come back.”
For Tim, every day is a challenge. The debilitating fatigue and body aches prevent even basic movement. He experiences severe light and noise sensitivity, vertigo, dizziness, and cognitive impairments that make screen time or even looking at his phone for more than a few minutes nearly impossible. Adding to the strain, Tim’s body no longer tolerates any physical or mental exertion, temperature changes, or bright lights, which worsen his symptoms. The condition is thought to be linked to a viral trigger, yet the exact biological cause of ME/CFS remains unknown – akin to the mystery surrounding long COVID. Medical experts theorize it could stem from cellular energy production issues, immune system reactions, or even brain stem damage.
Pictured above: Tim in his mountain biking element
Tim’s partner, Frankie Du Toit (27), has become his steadfast support, taking on all household responsibilities, from cooking and cleaning to managing finances. “Frankie’s been my rock,” Tim says. “She’s taken over everything, been my emotional support, and helps with daily tasks I can’t do myself, like showering.” Tim’s parents, James and Sue Bentley, have also had to adjust their lives significantly. They come by daily to prepare meals, handle the cleaning, and take him to all his medical appointments, all while managing the financial burden of ongoing treatments. “It’s been overwhelming,” Tim reflects. “This whole experience has placed a tremendous financial and emotional strain on my parents. They’ve spent nearly all their savings on my medical care.”
The road to recovery has been paved with medical tests and expenses. Currently, Tim is awaiting the results of a full brain and spine MRI to rule out conditions that mimic ME/CFS, such as cervical spinal stenosis. Additionally, he’s waiting for blood test results to check for heavy metal allergies to titanium, as he has plates and screws in his foot from past injuries. If these tests show no further complications, the focus will shift to managing his symptoms.
Pictured above: Tim Bentley
Amidst this uphill battle, Tim remains hopeful, inspired by stories of others who have recovered from ME/CFS. “The thought that one day I might be able to ride again and do the things I love is what keeps me going,” he says. His gratitude for the outpouring of support from 136 donors on his BackaBuddy campaign, which has raised over R163,000 so far, is profound. “Thank you so much to everyone who has donated, no matter how big or small,” Tim says. “Thank you to my wonderful friends, especially from the mountain biking community, who have donated and shared my story. And thank you to the kind people who don’t even know me but have still donated. I wish I could personally thank each and every one of you!”
As Tim continues his journey, the generosity of supporters has been a vital source of strength and hope. “It’s been absolutely overwhelming and has taken a huge financial burden off my parents. Knowing that I’m not forgotten during this incredibly challenging time means the world to me,” TIm says. The support allows him to focus on his next steps toward recovery, holding on to the hope that one day he will be back on his bike, conquering new trails, and living the life he once loved.
In 2020, amid the profound impact of the pandemic on families, Nicole Arrison, our very own Systems & Quality Assurance Analyst here at BackaBuddy from Kensington, Cape Town, found a unique way to celebrate her December 21st birthday – by giving back. Inspired by the pressing need she saw around her, Nicole set a goal to provide 21 grocery boxes to families in need. What began as a simple idea soon grew into something much larger, thanks to overwhelming support from friends, family, and even strangers around the world.
Reflecting on the first year of Box21For21, Nicole says, “I was overwhelmed with the support from all over the world – receiving donations from America, Malaysia, and Sweden. On the day of my birthday, driving around to deliver the boxes, I held back a lot of happy tears just witnessing the joy and relief on people’s faces.”
Since then, the initiative has grown to include stationery relief, providing children with essentials for school. Each year brings challenges, yet Nicole remains undeterred. Although work commitments limited her 2022 efforts, and the funds raised in 2023 fell short of her R21,000 goal, Nicole ensured that every rand was put to good use, contributing to a charity Christmas lunch for the homeless.
Pictured above: Groceries included in each box
This year, Nicole is starting early, calling on the generosity of supporters to help her provide essential grocery boxes to struggling families. She’s once again launched a crowdfunding campaign on BackaBuddy, raising over R1,000 of her R25,000 goal with the help of six incredible donors. She reflects on the initiative’s broader impact stating: “Sadly, it’s not only the rising cost of living that has hit the communities around me but also the recent storms and harsh winters. Yet, I’m optimistic – South Africa is the home of ‘ubuntu,’ and my hope is that Box21For21 can grow to a point where we have a constant rotation of grocery relief boxes being distributed.”
Each grocery box includes fresh produce, rice, tinned food, hygiene products, and a little bit of festive cheer. For many families, these items make a world of difference. “One mother shared how, after the loss of her son – who was their only source of income – she didn’t know where their next meal would come from. Thanks to the grocery box, that stress was alleviated, and they could enjoy Christmas. Knowing that I could help bring them some festive joy is a feeling I hold very close to my heart.” Nicole says
Pictured above: Box21For21 boxes packed and ready to be distributed
Nicole’s vision for Box21For21 is bold but grounded in compassion. She believes that with ongoing support, this initiative can help more families in need each year. “Your contribution has an unseen ripple effect, spreading joy and compassion that’s truly incomprehensible. Together, we can make this season brighter for families facing tough times. Thank you for supporting Box21For21 and sharing in my mission to make a difference.”
Picture a young child, eyes gleaming with excitement, clutching a book they can now call their own. This Christmas, through the Jakes Gerwel Foundation’s Blue Crane Book Project, you can help make that simple, profound dream a reality for thousands of children.
In the heart of the Eastern Cape’s Blue Crane District, the Jakes Gerwel Foundation’s goal is to deliver not just a gift but the joy of reading to 3,000 young learners. For as little as R50, you can sponsor a gift that includes a captivating storybook, sweets, and a small toy – a complete Christmas package for a child who may have very little to call their own.
“We employ 40 reading assistants who provide intensive one-on-one reading sessions to children with severe reading disabilities,” shares the Jakes Gerwel Foundation.
These reading assistants work in dedicated classrooms within local schools, transformed into nurturing reading rooms filled with books, colourful shelves, cosy mats, and engaging word games. These safe spaces are not only helping children learn to read but are inspiring a love of literature that could change their lives forever.
Beyond their regular reading sessions, the foundation organises holiday programs with plays, word games, food parcels, and face painting, creating a memorable experience for every child involved. “Through these activities, we aim to foster a sense of community and demonstrate that reading and books can be fun,” the foundation explains.
You can be part of this wonderful mission to spread Christmas cheer and hope to young learners in Pearston, KwaNojoli, Somerset East, and Cookhouse. By supporting the Blue Crane Book Project’s BackaBuddy crowdfunding campaign where they have raised over R1900 with the aid of 5 incredible donors, you’re joining a movement that brings not only gifts but the potential for a brighter future.
Warren Meyer (43), a devoted father and Senior Sales and Marketing Manager from Fourways, Gauteng, has left behind a legacy of generosity and love that continues to impact lives. On July 20, 2024, Warren suffered a cardiac arrest, after fighting in the ICU for 5 days, he sadly lost his life, but his selfless act of organ donation saved 9 lives, making him a true hero in life and beyond. His wife, Suzette (41), now shares his story to honour his life and raise awareness about the profound impact of organ donation while hoping to secure a future for their three daughters: Mila (12), Emily (10), and Olivia (5).
A Devoted Father and a Heroic Act
Warren was not only known for his hard work as a Senior Sales and Marketing Manager for a property development company but also for his immense love for his family. His wife, Suzette, shared, “Warren was a fantastic dad—very hands-on and a devoted husband. His family was his life.” Each of their daughters held a special place in Warren’s heart. “Our eldest excelled in drama and running, our middle daughter plays in the boys’ A soccer team, and our youngest was the apple of his eye. We were incredibly blessed to have a father and husband like Warren,” Suzette recalled fondly.
Warren’s generosity extended beyond his home, with his decision to become an organ donor rooted in his desire to give. “Warren was very generous; he would give his last R100 to someone in need and then go without.” Suzette shared. Despite the unimaginable grief of losing her husband, she is deeply moved by Warren’s final act of kindness. “Our loss was the answer to so many prayers; that is not something you get to give every day,” she reflected.
Picture above: Warren and Suzette Meyer
A Walk of Honour: Saying Goodbye to a Hero
When Warren sadly passed, the family faced a devastating reality. Suzette and their daughters spent a heart-breaking week watching Warren fight, only to have to let him go. On the day of his organ donation, staff at Life Hospital organised a solemn “walk of honour” to celebrate Warren’s bravery and compassion. Friends, family, hospital staff, and strangers lined the corridors, singing hymns as Warren made his final journey to the operating room.
“It was the most heart-breaking yet utterly beautiful thing I have ever experienced,” Suzette said. “The nurses were humming a hymn, and there were so many people lining the halls—doctors, nurses, friends, family, colleagues, strangers—all there to pay their last respects to a hero I could call my husband.”
Suzette expressed her appreciation for the hospital staff and the Organ Donor Foundation for their compassion and respect during such a difficult time. For Suzette and her daughters, this display of unity and respect helped bring a sense of peace amid their sorrow. “They treated Warren with the utmost respect right up until after the ‘harvest surgery,’ when they led me through to see him one last time and kiss him goodbye,” she shared, emphasising the compassionate care and support they received.
Honouring Warren’s Legacy and Supporting His Daughters
In the wake of this loss, Suzette has launched a crowdfunding campaign to secure a stable future for their three daughters, who are now without their father’s support. “Going from being ‘okay’ to being a single-income family is frightening and stressful,” she explained. Despite these challenges, Suzette wants to ensure her daughters have everything they need to heal and thrive.
The campaign has raised over R185,000 from 222 generous donors, with a goal of R250,000 to cover immediate and future expenses.
“What you have done by donating is give me and my girls one more day, week, and month, allowing us to heal our hearts instead of panicking about what we will do next month. Our life insurance did not pay out, so going from being “ok” to being a single income-earning family is frightening and stressful. Warren left behind three extraordinary and talented little girls. I want to make sure they have everything they need so that life does not burden them; they have already lost one of the most important people in their lives, and they do not need more stress at this young age”, Suzette expressed gratefully.
Picture above: Warren and his daughters, Mila, Emily, and Olivia.
She remains deeply moved by the support her family has received, adding, “I am eternally grateful to all the donors for their kindness. May you be blessed because you blessed someone else in their time of need.” The Meyer family’s story is a poignant reminder of the profound impact one person’s decision can have on the lives of many.
To support the Meyer family, visit their campaign here:
To register as an organ donor, visit the Organ Donation Foundation of South Africa atwww.odf.org.za or your local health department. By becoming an organ donor, you can help ensure that your legacy lives on through the lives you touch.
“How can you be unsure about saving lives? Seven to nine lives can be saved, and you can make a difference to up to 21 lives. You take nothing with you when you pass on; instead, you leave the gift behind for someone else to live,” says Suzette, offering these heartfelt words for those unsure about organ donation.
In South Africa, many people face significant challenges accessing healthcare due to the high costs of medical aid. Thankfully, there are several resources and support options available to help those in need. Below, we outline ways to receive medical assistance without medical aid, including crowdfunding, NGOs, apps, social media groups, and more.
Crowdfunding for Medical Expenses
Crowdfunding can be a lifeline when facing high medical costs. ThroughBackaBuddy, you can share your story and connect with a community that cares, enabling you to raise funds for crucial medical treatments, ongoing care, and emergency procedures. Whether you’re dealing with a long-term condition, sudden illness, or need help with post-operative expenses, crowdfunding can be a powerful way to seek financial support and reach those willing to help.
Public healthcare facilities in South Africa offer essential medical services, from chronic medication and emergency care to maternity and preventative services.
Here’s a list of key public hospitals in each province to contact if you need affordable medical care:
Gauteng: Chris Hani Baragwanath Hospital – Contact: (011) 933 8000
Western Cape: Groote Schuur Hospital – Contact: (021) 404 9111
KwaZulu-Natal: Inkosi Albert Luthuli Central Hospital – Contact: (031) 240 1000
Non-Governmental Organisations (NGOs) and Charities
NGOs and charities can offer crucial support if you’re struggling to access healthcare services:
Doctors Without Borders (MSF): Provides medical care to communities in crisis, regardless of financial constraints. VisitDoctors Without Borders for more information.
Gift of the Givers: Known for stepping in where help is most needed, Gift of the Givers offers assistance with medical care and supplies. Learn more atGift of the Givers.
Free and Low-Cost Medication
If you need chronic medication or support with regular health needs, there are pharmacies and organisations dedicated to helping:
Dis-Chem Clinic Services: Hosts free health screenings and immunisation drives at various times of the year. Learn more atDis-Chem Clinic Services.
Public Clinics: Many government-run clinics offer chronic medication dispensing and health services at no cost to those who qualify.
Apps for Medical Assistance
Accessing affordable healthcare can be as simple as downloading the right app:
Alfajiri Health: Connects you to mental health professionals and wellness services. VisitAlfajiri Health.
Vula Mobile: Designed for healthcare workers to make referrals, especially useful for rural patients needing specialist care. VisitVula Mobile.
Social Media Groups and Support Communities
Online communities can be a great source of practical advice, emotional support, and information on accessing affordable healthcare:
Medical Advice South Africa (Facebook Group): A community where members share experiences and advice about healthcare. Join the group onFacebook.
CANSA (Cancer Association of South Africa): Offers information and emotional support for those affected by cancer. Connect with them onFacebook orInstagram.
SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group): A dedicated mental health support group with resources and guidance. Follow them onFacebook or visitSADAG.
Influencers Advocating for Healthcare Access
Some influencers actively share healthcare information and promote accessible care:
Dr. Nokukhanya Khanyile (@dr.khanyile on Instagram): A medical doctor providing healthcare advice and mental health insights.
Zola Hashatsi (@zola_hashatsi on Instagram): An advocate for mental health awareness and affordable mental healthcare options.
Media Outlets Highlighting Healthcare Access
A few media outlets are committed to covering healthcare issues and sharing resources:
Bhekisisa Centre for Health Journalism: Reports on public health challenges and solutions. VisitBhekisisa.
Health-E News: Focuses on stories related to healthcare access and public health. VisitHealth-E.
Telemedicine Services
Telemedicine is a growing way to consult with healthcare professionals at an affordable cost:
Kena Health: Provides low-cost virtual consultations. Your first consultation is free. Learn more atKena Health.
MediClubSA: Offers consultations via WhatsApp or phone calls at an affordable price. VisitMediClubSA.
Mobile Health Clinics
Mobile health clinics serve communities with limited healthcare access, often free of charge:
Phelophepa Health Train: Known as the ‘train of hope,’ this service offers comprehensive healthcare to rural communities. Learn more atPhelophepa Health Train.
PinkDrive: A mobile unit providing free breast cancer screening services. VisitPinkDrive.
University Clinics and Teaching Hospitals
University clinics and teaching hospitals often offer affordable care under the supervision of professionals:
University of Pretoria Teaching Hospital: Provides medical, dental, and psychological services at reduced rates. Visit their website.
Sometimes legal or financial support can ease the burden of medical bills:
Legal Aid South Africa: Offers free legal representation, including healthcare-related cases. VisitLegal Aid SA.
If you’re navigating health challenges, remember there’s help available. From raising funds with BackaBuddy to seeking care from public health facilities, there are many routes to receive the medical assistance you need. Let’s continue to support each other and spread the word about these valuable resources.
The Grace Factory, situated in Gauteng, continues its compassionate mission of supporting vulnerable mothers and their newborn babies. Since 2012, The Grace Factory has acted as a pillar of support for mothers in need, likened to a “Santa for moms,” providing dignity and relief at one of life’s most vulnerable moments.
With 400 “bundles of joy” maternity packs filled with essential goodies, distributed this past weekend, hundreds of moms across Gauteng and KwaZulu-Natal can now rest a little easier. These colourful bags, emblazoned with The Grace Factory’s logo, symbolise hope and relief for mothers-to-be who are often burdened with immense stress.
Each bundle contains thoughtful items designed to ease the burden of caring for a newborn. Baby clothes, nappies, wet wipes, baby soap, maternity pads, and breast pads are among the essential gifts packed into these life-changing bags. Thanks to the dedication of volunteers, 200 packs were prepared in both provinces over the weekend, bringing smiles and reassurance to 400 families. These maternity packs are distributed to hospitals, clinics, social workers, and community partners.
Donate specific items (the full list is available on their website)
Sponsor a packing day
Host a donation drive to help another 100 mothers and babies in need
The Grace Factory remains dedicated to placing value and dignity on every mother during this critical time in her life. Their vision is clear: no mother should deliver her baby without the basic care essentials, and through the collective support of communities, they continue to make that vision a reality.
Pictured above: 32-year-old Timothy Bentley
Pictured above: Tim in his mountain biking element
Pictured above: Tim Bentley
