Stan Potgieter (56), a veteran from Centurion, is embarking on a healing journey beginning on 23 May 2022 at the Voortrekker Monument and ending at the scene of an attack he and his squad were led to 38 years ago in Southwest Africa.
Stan’s Story
Stan was in for a rude awakening when he reported for his compulsory military service and began infantry training at Phalaborwa-based 7 SAI. He had just turned 17.
Stan with his parents the day before he left for the border
Roughly a year later, deployed to the north of Namibia, on the Angolan border, Stan began performing patrols with his squad into hostile territory and had terrifying encounters. On one occasion, Stan recalls a rifle grenade being fired at the squad, bouncing between them without detonating.
The attack
Whilst on a routine patrol on 23 June 1984, Stan’s life changed forever, in the blink of an eye.
A local interpreter, Thomas, led Stan’s four-man patrol to where there was an alleged SWAPO presence. They had crossed a road known as ‘Willie se witpad’, venturing about 32 kilometres from the base and searched a deserted kraal.
Resting briefly, they continued the patrol. It was infantry practice after a rest, to rotate the order of patrol, giving everyone a chance to walk ‘on point’.
Stan was next up ‘on point’ but was chivvied into second by his best mate, Johannes Theunissen, nicknamed ‘Piesang’, who pulled rank as the Corporal in charge. Stan was still rankled by this break from routine when all hell broke loose.
A rifle grenade fired at the squad detonated against a branch, killing 21-year-old ‘Piesang’ instantly. A hail of AK 47 and SKS rifle fire cut down Hennie, another squad member, as he sought cover.
Willie, the other member, had a phosphorous grenade detonated on his webbing, resulting in severe burns to his body. Stan, not realising the extent of his comrades’ wounds, shouted out and fired his R4 at the attackers.
Stan was completely unscathed.
After taking stock of their situation, Stan recovered the radio from beneath Piesang’s lifeless body and radioed to report the ambush and request a casualty evacuation helicopter. He then tore his shirt into strips to bind his comrades’ wounds as best he could and removed his T-shirt to cover his best friend’s head, hiding the wounds that had ended his life.
An hour later a South African Super Frelon helicopter arrived, hovering over the soldiers, to collect Piesang’s body and the wounded soldiers.
As Stan was not wounded, he was told that he could not be ‘casevaced’, and had to stay put. The chopper took off and flew away, leaving a barely 18 year old scared and traumatised ‘troopie’ alone in hostile territory.
Around lunchtime, a Koevoet [SA Police] patrol arrived on the scene. A request to return to his HQ with them was also denied because the ‘infantry looks after their own.’ For a second time, Stan was left alone.
Stan in training
He passed the time by studying the ambush site. Rifle grenades were still lying neatly in a row, ready to be used in an instant. In the late afternoon, seven hours after the ambush, an infantry ‘Buffel’ troop carrier eventually arrived to pick him up.
Getting back to base in the dark, he was told to report to the unit chaplain who read a passage from the Bible, and said a prayer and that was that. He spent the evening drawing maps, writing a report and contemplating why his friend died in his place. The guilt and sadness, Stan says, were all-consuming.
Moved to a reaction unit, Stan spent the next 8 months clearing up after contacts between SWAPO and the SANDF, recovering the shattered bodies of friend and foe. The futility of war became more and more apparent.
Ruptured knee ligaments saw Stan flown back to 1 Military Hospital in Pretoria for surgery. What confused him even more, was seriously wounded SWAPO being flown out for treatment on the same flight. One day they were required to kill them and the next they did all they could to save their lives. Nothing made sense anymore. Recounting this to fellow soldiers in his hospital ward resulted in a visit by Security Police threatening to ‘lock him up for 15 years for sharing ‘sensitive information.
Eventually, Stan was subjected to sleep therapy where he was heavily sedated for days on end. He recalls waking up sobbing. After hospitalisation, he was eventually discharged G5K5 – Medically unfit.
Life after the military
When Stan left the military in 1985, he found that his medical discharge hindered his job prospects. He eventually qualified as a toolmaker to support his then-wife, Mellisa and their 2 children Sven and Miquette.
Stan with his daughter Miquette
Haunted by the ghosts of his past, Stan tried to put his life back together, but the military memories lingered in the back of his mind, affecting his relationships and mental well-being.
A difficult conversation
In 2014 Stan responded to a discussion on Jacaranda FM, which became a turning point in his life.
Asked about his military experience, Stan opened up about everything he had been through, and the mental anguish he suffered as a result. Suddenly painful emotions that lay dormant for over 30 years came to the surface.
Soon after the Good Morning Angels segment, Stan was inundated with phone calls from soldiers with shared experiences and the many families that were affected.
He then decided to launch his own non-profit organization, Wear it for the wounded, to raise awareness and funds for veterans living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and to comfort families of fallen soldiers.
“It is essential for veterans to realise that they are not alone and that they should open up and share their past traumas with family and friends to face their trials and tribulations,” says Stan
A Healing journey
Under the banner of ‘Wear it for the wounded’, Stan has decided to embark on a 2500km journey, starting at the Wall of Remembrance to fallen soldiers at the Voortrekker Monument on the 21 May 2022, to the scene of the ambush in Ondangwa, Southwest Africa on 23 June 2022.
Stan at The Voortrekker Monument
Travelling on an electrically assisted pedal tricycle, Stan hopes to raise R100 000, through a crowdfunding campaign launched on BackaBuddy.
Since the launch of the campaign over R12 000 has been raised with contributions from 17 donors, which will be used to cover stan’s costs and to help families and victims of PTSD
“We need to show our solidarity with those who have fought, suffered and died for a better life for us all. Irrespective of whose side they were on, these men and women answered the call to defend what they, at that time, held dear. Victims one and all. Helpless pawns in politicians’ games.
They deserve our thanks, love, help and support. As do the first responders, Police, Paramedics or Health workers, who deal with traumatic events almost daily.
South Africa’s leading crowdfunding platform, BackaBuddy has supported more than 10 000+ individuals and charities in setting up fundraising campaigns for medical fees, tuition and various causes in South Africa. The platform has thus far risen over R327 Million.
On the 29th of May 2020, Lisa (41) and Russell Swanepoel (38) from Berea, Durban, who for years longed to be parents, finally welcomed their twin daughters, Stevie-Mae, and Lily-Jean, into the world.
A few months later, the twins were diagnosed with epilepsy after suffering multiple seizures. Then the unexpected happened: Stevie-Mae passed away in her sleep, leaving her parents heartbroken and with many unanswered questions.
Doctors initially thought that Stevie-Mae had passed away due to SUDEP (Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy), a condition whose root cause is not well understood.
In the depths of grief over the loss of Stevie-Mae, and terrified of what this meant for Lily-Jean, the family began a Genetic sequencing journey, which revealed that the twins were born with Dravet Syndrome, a rare, drug-resistant iteration of epilepsy.
The signs of Dravet Syndrome in Stevie-Mae had gone unnoticed, but her passing has given her sister, who is now 2 years old, a fighting chance. This now becomes Lily-Jean’s story.
Currently, Lily’s medical needs are best described as chronic and evolving. She needs constant monitoring as leaving her alone could prove fatal and close attention is paid to her medication.
“Lily’s days are variable as this syndrome has huge effects on her tiredness and 2 of the 4 drugs she takes have a huge impact on her appetite. So eating and sleeping is not a regular or sure thing for her to be able to easily do (let alone the restricted food choices she has on her diet)”
“Someone always needs to be with Lily, particularly when she is sleeping, for her seizure activity to be monitored. Mom and dad, Granny or a carer are always ready to step in to change her environment or administer oxygen or medication to help her deal with seizures.”
“Lily is overwhelmed by tasks and challenges in certain environments. And when she gets overwhelmed (too excited, too frustrated, too tired, too hungry, too hot, too cold) she starts having myoclonic seizures and myoclonic blinks with absences. Those seizure spells can affect her significantly.” – says Lisa
Through their courageous daughter, Lisa and Russell hope to create awareness about Dravet Syndrome so that it may never go unnoticed again. Lily-Jean has a long road ahead of her as she grapples with this disorder, but she is a fighter.
“Despite all of the above, Lily-Jean wakes up every day determined to try and make the most of it and captures the heart of everybody in her path. She is a light that we refuse to let this syndrome extinguish.” – says Lisa
Crowdfunding on BackaBuddy
To support Lily-Jean as she takes on this uncommon, drug-resistant, and refractory enemy, the family have launched a crowdfunding campaign on BackaBuddy that has since raised over R170 000, with contributions from 130 donors.
Funds raised by the campaign are being used to cover:
Lily-Jean’s medical aid premiums so that her family can afford her medications, one of which has to be specially imported and approved from France
Multiple paediatrician visits (any illness can dramatically increase the risk and magnitude of seizures), and Paediatric neurologist appointments to determine Lily-Jean’s progress.
Weekly Occupational and Speech Therapy appointments to help Lily-Jean manage her early childhood development and assist us all with tools to help overcome the learning and developmental hurdles that are in her path
A specialised daily carer
Specialised foods and paediatric dietician
“The support we have received is overwhelming and humbling. Without it, we would not be able to support Lily in the way she needs to be able to deal with what an average day looks like for her. We are acutely and deeply aware of how lucky we are to have this support, and it’s made us even more aware of how other families may not have the same support, but have the same challenges”
“This is why our page and our purpose is to bring awareness to what it takes to successfully (that is different for everyone) manage complex and rare genetic disorders like Lily’s and the monster that is epilepsy. The more awareness we can raise, hopefully, the more families we can help directly or indirectly, and simply even assure them they are not alone.” – says Lisa
South Africa’s leading crowdfunding platform, BackaBuddy has supported more than 10 000+ individuals and charities in setting up fundraising campaigns for medical fees, tuition and various causes in South Africa. The platform has thus far risen over R350 Million.
Shaun Phelan (23), an electrical apprentice from Stanger, Kwa-Zulu Natal, learned that his dad, Shaun (Senior), was diagnosed with chronic kidney failure in January 2020.
Just 3 months later, doctors discovered that his kidney function was less than 4%.
Hearing that her son and her husband of over 24 years were facing equally difficult obstacles was extremely difficult for Sharon and her family.
“I watched my diabetic husband, who was always active, go through a bypass, then dialysis, and then he was completely reliant on a wheelchair. Then Shaun got sick, which was a major shock, as he had always been healthy.” – says Sharon.
Sadly, Shaun Senior (55) who was a wonderful and giving person, succumbed to kidney failure on 5 October 2021, as he was ineligible for a kidney transplant due to his health problems.
In the absence of his dad, who he loved dearly, Shaun was determined to defeat his diagnosis and was fully focused on his health. Shaun underwent dialysis 3 times a week for up to 6 hours.
“Mom was my Miracle”
Facing the reality that Shaun’s only hope of a ‘normal and functioning’ life, was to have a kidney transplant as soon as possible, Sharon dutifully volunteered to get tested, hoping to beat the 50/50 odds of becoming a kidney donor for her son.
Undergoing blood type, crossmatch, and HLA testing (tissue typing), Sharon was elated to learn that she was a perfect match for Shaun.
“I am really happy that I am a match for my son as this means that he can get the transplant sooner and not have to wait for a match to be found. I hoped that the transplant would be a success so that he can carry on and live his dream and he would not be held back as he was at that moment” – says Sharon
Saving Shaun’s life
With a donor match secured, Shaun was scheduled to undergo his kidney transplant at Netcare St Augustine’s Hospital on 23 June 2022.
To help cover the donor costs not covered by Shaun’s medical aid, as well as Shaun’s transplant and living expenses before and after the life-saving transplant, Sharon had launched a crowdfunding campaign on BackaBuddy.
A kidney transplant will save Shaun’s life
Since the launch of the campaign, over R69 000 has been raised with kind contributions from 50 donors.
Update
Thank you for your support and for walking the transplant journey with me. I couldn’t have done this without you! The transplant took place on the 14th of June, 2022. The transplant was a success, and the doctors are happy with my progress. My blood levels are coming back to normal slowly.
My mother is also doing well and is recovering well. I am on numerous different medications to help with anti-rejection, blood pressure, etc. And medication is really costly. The bills are also starting to come in now from the hospital.
The transplant has impacted my family’s and my life in a positive way as I have not had the need to do dialysis since the 13th of June 2022 because the transplanted kidney has worked immediately after the operation being done. If anything, this journey has taught me one thing is that the support from your friends and family helps with a speedy recovery and makes everything a bit easier to cope with.
The donations so far have helped me to pay urgent bills that needed to be paid and have made life a bit easier in terms of stress levels.
South Africa’s leading crowdfunding platform, BackaBuddy has supported more than 10 000+ individuals and charities in setting up fundraising campaigns for medical fees, tuition and various causes in South Africa. The platform has thus far risen over R350 Million.
Rays of Hope, a non-profit organization based in Alexandra, Johannesburg, is hoping to raise R1 million to grow its team of social workers who play a pivotal role in empowering vulnerable residents who live in the township
“When you’re sick, a doctor can assess the problem and give you a diagnosis and prescription, and when you’re struggling emotionally, you can speak to a good friend or even a psychologist,” explains Bertha Muchadeyi, Social Work and Vulnerable Programmes Manager at Rays of Hope.
“But who do you speak to when life happens, and you don’t know who to turn to for help or where to find the practical information you need to get your life back on track?
“That’s where social workers come in – they are specially trained professionals who can think critically about challenges and design and implement solutions that are relevant to each person’s needs so that they can overcome the challenges they face,” she says.
The demand for social workers is enormous in a South African context, where unemployment, gender-based violence, sexuality and teenage pregnancy plague our society. Despite this, many people facing these challenges do not know what social workers can do for them or even how to find one.
While Rays of Hope has expanded its social worker pool to serve the Alexandra community, the need is much greater than the funding available to support it – despite the fact that many of its social workers provide their services for free.
“We also believe that social workers should earn more than the R5,000 that is common within environments like Alexandra, making our goal a dual one: that of employing more social workers to support the community, and of paying them a salary that recognises their skill and importance,” she adds.
By employing more social workers in Alexandra, they can help everyone in the community build a better future, whether that is by counselling families in mental and physical health, connecting indigent families with aid organizations, assisting them in overcoming addictions, or providing job opportunities and skill training.
Rays of Hopes has launched a crowdfunding campaign on BackaBuddy to help cover their running costs, which are estimated to be R1 000 000 this year alone.
Securing much-needed funds will allow the organization to expand its resources and assist more individuals in the community.
“So many of Alexandra’s residents are stuck in the same cycles of gender-based violence, unemployment, and poverty that their parents and grandparents were,” Bertha says.
“We know that a dedicated team of social workers can help break these cycles and give people the tools, knowledge and confidence that they need to move beyond the legacies of this township.
“We’re appealing to Johannesburg’s people – most of whom engage with an Alex resident every day of their lives – to help make this a reality. No contribution is too small, and every contribution will help make a positive difference to this community, to their future, and to the future of the city,” John Shuttleworth, interim CEO of Rays of Hope, adds.
South Africa’s leading crowdfunding platform, BackaBuddy has supported more than 10 000+ individuals and charities in setting up fundraising campaigns for medical fees, tuition and various causes in South Africa. The platform has thus far risen over R350 Million.
Charlene Drotsky (34), a stay-at-home mom from Klerksdorp, North West, was involved in a hit-and-run accident on 2 April 2022, while on holiday with her fiancé, Corné Viljoen (39) in Malmesbury, Cape Town.
After spending a night out with friends, a man with a bakkie offered to give Charlene and her friends a lift home. Charlene, who was the last one to be dropped off that night, could never have imagined what would happen next.
When Charlene arrived at her destination and tried to exit the vehicle, the driver reversed unexpectedly, trapping Charlene’s left leg under the front wheel of the vehicle.
Instead of stopping to help Charlene, who cried out in pain, the panicked driver tried to make his escape, driving over Charlene’s waist with the front and back tyre of his vehicle, before leaving her in severe pain on the road.
Charlene Drotsky before the accident
Hearing the commotion outside, Corné rushed to Charlene’s side and phoned emergency services. The driver had already vanished.
“When I saw what has happened to my fiancé, I thought it was over for her. I saw her getting pulled in under a bakkie, I saw her getting dragged into the road. I can still hear her screaming for help as I tried my best to fight the driver to switch off his bakkie, but I was too weak,”
“I managed to run a few metres away from the vehicle towards her as I thought he drove over her head. I remember I started shouting and screaming at God, asking him to please not let my fiancé die,”
Multiple Injuries
After her ordeal, Charlene was treated for critical injuries at Tygerberg Hospital in Cape Town.
She sustained multiple injuries including a broken scapula, pelvis and several broken ribs. She also suffered internal bleeding that resulted in her contracting septicemia and had bleeding on her lungs that needed to be drained. Due to the damage to Charlene’s pelvis, she also lost the function of her left leg.
“Charlene is a wonderful mother and a kind-hearted person who didn’t deserve to be discarded the way she was. This incident has devastated our family, especially Charlene’s two boys, Cayden (13) and Calden (9), who weren’t convinced that she survived the ordeal. They don’t understand what has happened and cry daily for her to come home” – says Charlene’s sister, Marcelle
Update:
On Friday, 19 August 2022, after almost 5 months in hospital, Charlene sadly succumbed to her injuries after her hit-and-run accident.
After days of struggling with her protein levels and getting Refeeding syndrome, Charlene’s condition turned critical. Her blood pressure skyrocketed, her breathing became short and fast, she struggled to recognise loved ones, and then finally her organs began to fail.
Our hearts go out to Charlene’s husband Corné, their two boys Cayden and Calden, her sister Marcelle, as well as everyone who knew and loved Charlene.
“Charlene faught so hard for so long. She was a real warrior. My heart is shattered. I didn’t just lose my sister, I lost my mom and my best friend too. She’s was everything to me. She took me in when we lost our mom. I don’t know how I’ll cope but I will keep strong for her kids and I promised her I will always love then as they were my own” -says Marcelle
Crowdfunding on BackaBuddy
In April 2022, Marcelle, Charlene’s sister launched a crowdfunding campaign on BackaBuddy, that raised over R50 000 through kind contributions from over 42 donors, which became a lifeboat for the family, who struggled to cover Charlene’s extensive medical costs as she didn’t have medical aid.
“The most difficult thing is feeling hopeless and helpless when someone you love is struggling or in pain. We couldn’t be more thankful for the love and support we were shown after Charlene’s horrific ordeal” – says Marcelle
If anyone would like to support Charlene’s family as they come to terms with their insurmountable loss, any additional funds raised, will be used to help cover the cost of Charlene’s funeral and support her family with anything they may need during this painful time.
South Africa’s leading crowdfunding platform, BackaBuddy has supported more than 10 000+ individuals and charities in setting up fundraising campaigns for medical fees, tuition and various causes in South Africa. The platform has thus far raised over R323 Million.
Eliza Mussa (30) an au pair originally from Lunzu, a township outside of Blantyre in Malawi, got a distressing call from her loved ones that her home was destroyed by the deadly tropical cyclone ‘Ana’ in late January.
The storm which lasted a week and left behind a path of destruction, nearly claimed the lives of Hanna, Eliza’s sister, and her 4 children who were staying at the home, as their home was destroyed by a similar storm in 2016.
As the home is now inhabitable, Hanna and her children sought refuge at a primary school, before being housed by warm-hearted samaritans.
For the past 8 years, Eliza has lived in Lakeside, South Africa, diligently saving extra monies to build her safe haven in her hometown, where she planned to retire to in her old age, along with her two children Fatima (10) and Nazim (3).
Eliza is heartbroken that her years of hard work have been erased, but she is thankful for the safety of her family and maintains the sunny disposition she is known and loved for.
“When Eliza came to work in tears one morning and showed me the pictures of her house, which had been destroyed in the storm, it struck me how unfair life can be. She told me about how she had worked so hard to repay the money that she had borrowed to build it in the first place. Then overnight a storm destroyed her house, and she doesn’t have insurance to pay for the costs to rebuild it”, says Jessie.
“Eliza comes to work every day with a smile. Even after her house was destroyed, she was there, playing with my daughter Leah and making her giggle. She is a lovely person; we trust her immensely”, says Jessie, her employer.
Rebuilding brick by brick
To help rebuild Eliza’s home, Jessie has launched a crowdfunding campaign with a fundraising target of R50 000, to cover the materials and labour needed to restore the humble home to its former glory.
Since the campaign launched, over R21 000 has been raised on BackaBuddy to support the family through this difficult time, with contributions from 21 donors, both locally and abroad.
“It is so nice how people have helped me with this crowdfunding campaign. A huge thank you for the campaign and for everyone who has donated, I really appreciate it. I could never have raised this money myself. I hope we can raise our target of R50 000 so that I can rebuild my house and one day go back and live there with my kids.” says Eliza.
Photo credit: Jessie with her daughter Leah and Eliza
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